Self care vs. True Joy
It’s so easy to think that self-care means doing the stuff that brings you temporary pleasure. You know what I mean, eating a whole (I meant piece of) chocolate cake, drinking a glass of wine, taking a bath.
Sure these things can be self-care, they can definitely be enjoyable but do they bring you the true sense of joy? This type of joy is in some ways what life is all about? Perhaps they do!
For me it isn’t that simple. Don’t get me wrong I love chocolate cake, wine, and baths, and some days they are the absolute cure for what ails me. Finding joy and feeling completely alive looks different.
The funny thing is that what lights me up may change over time. But the feelings that I experience when I’m living out my purpose and doing what I’m here to do, they stay the same. I bet it’s the same for what lights you up.
Feelings like determination, certainty, curiosity, and excitement are the ones that tell me that I’m doing the thing. The thing that lights me up. Something that I find really interesting about this in my own life though is that other areas of my life or things that I’m struggling with can dim my shine even when I’m doing something that normally would have me totally engulfed.
Being afraid of not being good enough and fear of how others view me are hard for me. These are my big blockers. I feel lit up when I am sharing with others the joy that I’ve found in living a life of reflection, prayer, and kindness. The thing is even when I write that sentence I feel like a complete fraud. I struggle to keep a regular prayer and reflection practice and I’m barely kind at times…
But it still lights me up and I know better then to dim my own shine.
What about you?
So what is that brings you that joy? What truly lights you up? How do you know when you’ve found it? What gets in the way of you doing that which brings you joy? What can you do to ensure that you don’t let them hold you back?