If you’re looking for the secret to happiness- mindfulness may just be your answer. It is at least part of the equation, as far as I can see.
Starts with You.
I don’t know about you but I spend A TON of time focusing on other people. The ways they’ve hurt me, the things they could’ve done differently, how they’re being unfair or ridiculous. I think if I can just change everybody else then all will be well.
There are only about a million problems with this way of thinking.
And the one most worth mentioning is the only person we have ANY CONTROL OVER is ourselves (and sometimes I feel like I cannot even master that.)
So mindfulness in your life, being present, in touch, and taking time to care for you can only start with YOU. While this seems complicated at times I find it super freeing. It’s hard trying to control others.
Be True to You.
Writer Dan Bova looked at the morning routines of some quite successful people. He then tried the routines for himself. Bova comes to the conclusion that his experience doesn’t work because he tried to do what works for others. I see this all the time in myself. I read a lot of things, I pin a lot of things, I want to do what other people tell me works for them. The thing is I’m not them. While trying out tried and true practices isn’t bad for me it’s when I judge myself when it doesn’t work out that the slippery slope gets started.
While I found this article to be extremely helpful and freeing, I would be lying if I didn’t say that I feel like the task of figuring out what works for me isn’t a difficult one. Self-knowledge is a messy long journey with lots of bumps along the road to true self-discovery. I’m so happy I’ve got some great people who are willing to pick me up when I fall, laugh with me, and let me cry (even the ugly cry) when necessary.
Keep it simple.
From gratitude practice to changing your thoughts there are so many SIMPLE things we can do to stay present and be more mindful. I love this because sometimes life feels very complicated. My to-do lists are far longer than my energy levels are high. That being said I want a full life, one where I enjoy more than I don’t and I’m able to be my best self and bring love and joy to those whom I’m blessed to be surrounded by. So keeping it simple is so good.
What are your favorite ways to practice mindfulness in your life? Who do you turn to when you’re looking to learn what may work for you?
Would love to hear from you!