Overwhelm can strike the best of us, sometimes we know it’s going to happen and other times we’re just going along our merry way and bam. I’m a work in progress, like for real, this is partly why I write and a whole lot of why I started Small Steps. We are all works in progress. Anyone who seems like they have it all together well they don’t but also maybe they’ve done a little more work.
Oh the work. I’m in a spot in my life where I feel like I’m doing a lot of the work. Work to keep the house clean. Work to raise the kids. Work in the business. Work on the business (yes, they are different.) It seems like a lot of work. Sometimes even teh play part seems like work, need a babysitter, going to bed late makes me cranky and on and on.
Enough. The overwhelm. Enough.
These are my four favorite ways of dealing with the overwhelm. Some are a little more “typical” than others. I’ve found success with each and say it’s worth a shot. Also, as always I’d love to hear your favorite ways to cut the overwhelm.
Write the overwhelm out of your head!
People talk about the brain dump a lot. And I am a giant fan. The definition of a brain dump is the transfer of information from your brain to another storage medium. The thing about a brain dump is you don’t need to think about it you need to just write onto the paper. All the things in your brain. This viral post on scary mommy is awesome and makes me laugh, because it’s so ACCURATE.
Talk to a trusted advisor or mentor.
I love talking to people, obviously. If you have ever met me you’re thinking um yea. One of the things I love most about talking to people is so often people can relate to how you are feeling and it always helps me to see people who I really trust and admire tell me that they have overwhelm, too. Misery loves company, right? I’m kidding. The reason this helps is it normalizes it and sometimes normalizing is all you need to help you move past it. At least for me I can say to myself oh so it’s normal to be overwhelmed, it’s not a sign that I’m a complete and utter failure, awesome.
Hyper focus then let it go.
If there is a particular thing you are extremely overwhelmed by. I like to hyper focus but not in an obsessive crazy way, just in I’m going to think about just this for a period of time, say 30 minutes to start. Because even though this may seem counter-intuitive it’s not. If we just let the things that are overwhelming or intimidating us linger and seep into our every thought but keep trying to push them away it’s not serving us. Take time and choose to hyper-focus. What exactly has you most overwhelmed? Is there anything you can do about it at this time? If so, what are the actionable steps you can take? Then after you’ve set the time when it’s done let it go for then, if you need to put a date in your calendar to come back to it, do. No dwelling!
On the other end of the spectrum sometimes all we need is to zone out. Turn your favorite Netflix series on, and if you haven’t seen the Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, do yourself a favor and watch it. Read your fave book, start a new book, take a nap, do something that completely removes you from your own reality for a bit. That may be just the reset you need.
What is your favorite way to deal with overwhelm? We’d love to hear from you!