Do you ever feel like you just don’t have the tools to really spend your time enjoying the present moment? You know that there is this or that you are lacking, perhaps you feel like once you reach a particular milestone or moment it will happen. You will somehow magically be able to enjoy it all when you have whatever it is you think you need.
So I hate to be a bubble burster buttttt it’s just not true. I think deep down you know it’s not true but we hang on to this hope right!?! This idea that maybe just maybe if we clean our house and get a better outfit or maybe if we go on that vacation we never get to take or whatever crazy thing we’ve put in our heads as the thing we need then we will be able to enjoy our lives!
Here’s the thing the only reason I know anything about this is because every single line I just wrote, ever sentiment that I expressed. I have been there. And I’m still there A LOT OF THE TIME. I do know, however, as I’m sure you do to that it’s a totally crappy place to be. So I’m making a commitment to myself and to those around me that I’m going to find a way to stop the madness.
Here are 2 reasons why I know that I need to be enjoying the present moment and stop telling myself that it will be better if and when.
1. There may not be a when.
I’m sorry. I know this is a totally awful sobering truth that I hate hearing as much as the next person, however, it’s true for many reasons. The only thing I know for certain is that nothing is for certain. If I spend my days telling myself I’ll be happy when and that when never comes for one reason or another well then that totally sucks. So what if I say I’m happy now. What if I choose to be happy despite the fact that I still have the 10 lbs I want to lose, I’m not a nationally recognized speaker (yet- that better come ;). What if I just make that choice because I know the when isn’t guaranteed?
2. Despite what we tell ourselves that’s not going to make us happy either.
You know how I know this? Because A LOT of my current life situation is filled with my old whens. I mean that. When I get married, it’ll be easier- nope. When we have kids, then I’ll be happier-nope. Don’t get me wrong I’m not a totally ungrateful miserable wench (at least not all the time 😉 but my point is that our situations aren’t what makes us happy they just aren’t. They never been and they never will be. We make ourselves happy. We choose happiness. Or we don’t. That is totally up to us.
Sick of feeling like the person I described here?! I hear ya!
Join me tomorrow March 9th at 9am est for my Wednesday Webinar on 5 steps to Enjoying Your Present Situation: No Matter What! Sign up here! Heck maybe we will learn some things together.
See you there!