Depending on who you are, enjoying the holidays is either an oxymoron or a no brainer. I was starting to feel like I was the only one who sometimes feels like enjoying the holidays is impossible. So much pressure. So little time. So much extra to do. And then top it with the expectation that it should all be perfect and bam you’ve got a serious party there. But turns out I’m not the only one who feels the pressure!!! Actually 14 other women have signed up to join me tonight to ReFresh their Holidays (still a couple of spots left for locals to drop-in, it’s going to be AMAZING!!!!!!) That being said I’m grateful I’m not alone.
1. Be You
Some people love going to Rockefeller Center and waiting in line to ice skate. Some people don’t like falling on their ass on cold ice so they’d rather stay home and drink spiked egg nog while watching Clark Griswold totally screw up everything about Christmas with such grace (you can probably guess which one is more my speed.) It doesn’t really matter at the end of the day, and I’m not saying don’t try new stuff. In fact stay tuned because in an upcoming post I’m going to talk about baking cookies (something I used to knock) and tried this year and loved!!! Don’t try to have someone else’s idea of fun. It never works. Be You and trust that you can do that just fine.
2. Keep Breathing
If you’re coming to the Holiday ReFresh tonight you’re in for a treat regarding this tip. Let’s just say that I’m not the only one who thinks that breathing is important. I need to remind myself this a TON. Especially during high stress times. It’s sort of like that cute little Dory from Finding Nemo says, just keep swimming. Some days that is all we can do- just keep breathing. The lights are tangled, the cookies are burnt, the cards aren’t delivered yet and you want to get them out. Just keep breathing. These things are what your memories and stories will be about.
3. Remember the Reason for Enjoying
It’s easy to get caught up in the details. They say the devil is in the details after all….there’s a reason they say that! It’s not about who decorates the most beautifully (unless you’re in a decorating competition-which I guess would be an exception.) But you get what I mean, it’s about love, joy, and peace- all that good stuff. Just remind yourself of that over and over again as much as you need to. I like to set reminders in my phone, write myself notes places, and talk about it as much as possible. Don’t get lost in the details. It’s about love. Whatever it will be to help you remember, write it down, and keep reminding yourself.
4. Let Go of Perfection
If you’re perfect and your holidays go perfectly then you rock and I admire you and love you but I am not going to compare myself to you. I don’t think perfect exists, however, so for the rest of us- we’re off the hook!! Just let it go, I will not make another bad Disney reference (because you know what it would be already- what is it with me today?!?!) It’s not happening. You will not have a PERFECT holiday. And the sure fire way to make it suck is by setting way too high expectations that no human family especially one with young kids is capable of. So don’t even try it.
We’ve got this. I promise 🙂