Building Community has always been super important to me. I’ve always attributed it to the fact that I was born the youngest of eight. Enough said. Community is in my blood and for better or worse I thrive best in a group of people from whom I can learn and find support and care. In a world where we are in constant contact with each other through technology and social media at times we can feel even more alone than if we didn’t have these connections. Over the past almost 5 years since moving to my current neighborhood I’ve worked particularly hard at building a community and I’m happy to say that I finally have many amazing friends through a variety of places (mostly my amazing MOMS Club and fabulous networking group Bizzy Mamas.)
This one is really important, hence, why it’s first. I know not everybody is comfortable in social settings and meeting new people can seem a little scary butttttt if you want the benefits of people whom you can befriend and build community with I guarantee you have to take this step first! Say hi! Introduce yourself and find something in common. We all have somethings in common. These two ladies are some of my amazing networking buddies and imagine if I’d never said hi to them, I cannot!!!
I’m starting to realize that we are all “busy” and to be completely honest I’m starting to hate the idea, the word, the fact of the matter. There’s nothing like making people feel like a burden. When I say I’m busy I’m choosing other things (whatever they may be) over people. I’m making a concerted effort to not let myself get busy but rather to make time for what matters. My family, my friendship, giving back, and LOVE not the other crap.
I think we can all relate to what it feels like to be in one-sided relationships (hopefully not any of our current ones.) But I know there have definitely been people in my life with whom I have felt an imbalance in the relationship. Times where I feel like I’m giving way more than the other person and for awhile you’re okay with it because you’re happy to help but then all the sudden you end up feeling resentful because it’s ALL OF THE TIME. I’ve found that if I’m open and honest with my friends about my needs that usually they are kind and generous. My support means as much to others as theirs means to me. Share With Each Other.
Sharing is caring after all, we all learned that way back when. But in all honesty I do feel like sharing is what enables us to be in true community and grow meaningful mutually rewarding relationships. Sharing time as I mentioned before, sharing support and words of encouragement, sharing memories, all of this allows us to become closer to others. Any chance I get to share with others whether it be ideas or space (yay for co-working) I take it because it makes me feel connected and part of something bigger than myself.