I know that it’s not nice to talk that way but sometimes isn’t it just necessary to get the gumption and say it…get the hell out of my way!!!! Especially if it’s that awful you know who, the one who is always putting you down and never supporting you. The one who makes you lose sleep at night because you’re worrying about other people’s perception of you! Maybe you guessed by now that I’m nicer than that to talk like that to others but not so to myself! Self-judgement sucks. Big time.
And today I’m telling it (self-judgement) to get the hell out of my way. I have a theory that I recently shared with a friend about the idea of those voices of self-doubt that creep up in your head getting louder the closer you get to awesome. In that case. I must be right next door :).
Well, don’t get me wrong you are already awesome- I totally believe that. We are all awesome from the start. Sometimes we just hide that part because we get scared, the voices that creep in get too loud, and on and on. I’m done for now. I’m declaring a serious war with my own self-judgement. It’s unneccessary, it doesn’t serve me, and it doesn’t serve others at all. So I’m done. Don’t get me wrong I know it wont be that easy. I know that it’s going to be a long committed battle, the judgement has had a long time to grow and become bigger and bigger because I’ve let it. I’m done letting it. But how? If you’re like me and you deal with this as a crippling force in your day to day then you’re probably genuinely curious. Lately I’ve been trying to keep things simple. I feel like sometimes the more complicated it seems or the longer the list of steps the less likely I am to do it.
So here’s my plan. Remember that good old fabulous DARE program from grade school. Same idea. Just say no.
Here I’ll give you some examples….though I know you don’t need them. It’s that simple.
Self-judgement, “Liz you should be working more.” Liz, “No. I work just perfectly thanks. Plus didn’t I already tell you to get the hell out of my way.”
Self-Judgement, “Liz you should wear something different.” Liz, “No. Thank you.”
Okay I think you get my drift. Who’s with me?