That’s right positivity is dead. At least it has been for me lately. And the adverb is on it’s way, I would just like to point this out because the stock photo that I have here is proof that the adverb is dying (something my sister is very concerned about) as it should read “Think positively.” But I digress more on the adverb another time, or not.
Either way I must admit I’ve been on a little bit of a negative train lately. Nothing in particular has caused this. No terrible news that should have me down, it’s more of a general malaise and dissatisfaction. It’s really catching up to me and much of it I think stems from fear and anxiety and the many transitions happening in my life. Plus it’s summer and summer is hot. And for some bizarro reason I’m extremely affected by the heat. Maybe it’s the Irish in me. It kills me. Makes me downright cranky and uncomfortable. So I’m going to switch it up on Milli Vanilli and blame it on the heat (not the rain.) (I apologize for those of you who don’t get my terribly bad old pop culture reference and for those who do- You. Are. Welcome.)
The thing is – I’m stopping the madness right now. I’m resurrecting the positivity and I’m going to own it. You in? No more dwelling, no more feeling bad, no more judge-y negative self-talk. I’m done with it. It’s rainbows and kittens from now on. Okay, well maybe not. Let’s not get ridiculous. I kind of like a little crankiness it’s endearing but I do want to try to focus on the positive. So I’m going to institute 2 new rules in my life to try and make this work.
Rule #1. Take a deep breath.
My first instinct is often to respond negatively, it’s partially who I am and partially who I’ve trained myself to be but I find if I respond immediately it’s often negative first and then to the positive. For example “Liz, let’s go get ice cream!” I would think I shouldn’t, or no sweets, or it’s going to make me gain weight first and then I think yum, I love ice cream or what a great treat and on and on. The issue with that is that even if I do switch to the positive thinking the negative has already sort of tainted my thoughts, so there’s gonna be a little negative stuck in there and the experience wont be as great as it could have been if I had taken a minute and chosen my first response. The thing is I don’t know that we always have control over our thoughts- the things that just pop into our heads. I do think we can retrain our thoughts to work differently but in the meantime we can choose which ones we let become our responses and then our actions. That deep breath will be the moment where I make the choice for the positive.
Rule #2. One a day.
So they have these awesome things called vitamins and often you take one a day. I’m going to treat positivity like a vitamin and once a day I’m going to find a thing, call it my positive thing, and write it down. Every night before I go to bed. Anyone up for the challenge?
I’ll keep you posted. I think it’s going to be awesome. Look at me getting all positive already on you 🙂