You may have read the title of this post and if you know anything about my current life happenings you may have thought. Oh yay. Good for Liz, she’s totally rocking this transition. Ahem. So maybe not. But I am certainly going through a transitional time. Rocking may be the operative word or at the very least open for interpretation. Either way the plus side is that sometimes through the struggling and kicking and screaming and learning what NOT to do it helps to figure out what should be done. So maybe that’s more where I’m coming from. Read between the lines. I have a sneaky suspicion that the advice I’m about to share is as much
way freaking more for me than you.
I promise I’ll follow these tips myself. I can hear everyone I’m in daily contact with sighing a sigh of relief.
#1. Talk To Yourself.
Stay with me for a minute. I know this one may sound the nuttiest but honestly for me it’s the most important. Talk to Yourself. A LOT. I covered this a little bit in this post. Talk to yourself often and gently.Remind yourself that transitions are HARD. VERY HARD. But nobody ever got anywhere by staying in the same place. I cannot decide if that last sentence is super wise or totally idiotic, but I’m keeping in on the off-chance…
I find that if I pick something to remind myself with, a mantra of sorts it helps when I start feeling most doubtful, most nervous, and most frustrated. My mantra for this transition is “It’s all worth it.” All of it. The hard, the stupid, the sad, the frustrating, the good, the fun, the change. All of it. It’s all worth it. Pick your mantra or change it up either way talk to yourself gently.
#2. Talk To Other People.
I wouldn’t want us to be getting too crazy now. It’s just as important to talk to ourselves as it is to reach out to others. Sometimes we get so caught up in our own change or current moment and forget that we have support around us. We forget that there are other people who love us and want us to be happy and succeed. Reach out to them. Talk about your feelings. Maybe ask about their life and take your mind off your stuff for a bit. Talk about the weather, your favorite baseball team, something ridiculous. Talk about whatever you please just don’t ever forget you need others. Other people have a way of drawing us out of ourselves and that is a good thing.
#3. Do Things that Bring You Joy.
This is EXTREMELY important. Things that really and truly bring you joy. If you’re not sure and cannot answer that question then we’re going to need to work together soon, keep your eyes peeled for something I’ll be offering in the next few weeks. Even if you do know we can still work together on it because chances are that if you think about what brings you joy you haven’t done it that recently. If you have that’s awesome! You should be seriously proud that you do what’s good for you because it can become very easy in a time of change whether it’s a move, or a job change, or any change, to forget to do what brings you joy. Don’t forget. Take time today. Go for a run, order your favorite take out, read a book, take a nap…
#4. (speaking of) Get Plenty of Rest.
This post was actually thought up in a conversation the other night with a friend who was talking about a transition she’s going through in her life and a few minutes later she said I’ve just been so tired. I thought for a quick second before sharing (which isn’t common sometimes I have a hard time with that filter thing…) Then I realized it’s totally normal to be tired when going through any change. It’s exhausting. Routines are different. Energies are being used to figure out new things. And most likely you’re tossing and turning because you’re anticipating or thinking. Plus the lists are long and the things to do when you’re starting something new or ending something can get in the way of sleep when there just don’t seem to be enough hours in the day. So get rest. This one I’ve really been struggling with. I find the only time I feel like I have one second is when everyone else is a sleep and the temptation is too great to finish just one more thing. But last night I went to bed at 7, which is slightly too early, but hey I needed it.
I will say that annoyingly enough I feel like this could be on any list that has absolutely anything at all to do with self-care or anything remotely related. That is because no matter how you swing it exercise is good for you. I’m not saying you have to train for a triathlon but heck if that brings you joy, maybe you can kill two birds with one stone here. Exercise makes you feel better, helps with anxiety, gives you something to do that takes you out of your current situation, and is free (so if whatever change your experiencing affects your financial situation, like mine, then it’s perfect!)
#6. Be Easy on Yourself.
Okay, so I guess I’ve really been struggling with all of these. This one is hard. It goes back to the first one and all of the others are ways to do this I guess. It’s not easy. Transitions are hard on all of us. They make us question. They make us feel unsure. They make us all sorts of things we’re not comfortable with. They also give us opportunities. They give us hope. They give us possibility. So, be easy on yourself. I try this. I fail often. I talked about it here. But I know how important it is.
So there they are. Which one is your favorite? Which one is hardest? Or what’s a tip you would include? Have a great weekend!