So week 1 is winding down. I started the challenge on Thursday April 9th. And for 30 days I’ve committed to spending a minimum of 30 minutes per day doing only one thing. No distractions. No guilt. No thoughts about what I just did or what I will be doing next. 1 thing. And I agreed to give a weekly recap here, I thought daily might be a bit much. So I’m going to be 100000 % honest here and say this.
This is REALLY REALLY FREAKING HARD.
There’s a reason I needed this challenge. I’m a really bad uni-tasker. Really bad. So that being said. I’m going to focus on 2 times or 2 things that I decided to focus on that went really well in this past week, believe me the things that were hard post will come soon enough!
First, was time playing with my sons. I have a few times through this week really focused on 30 minutes with them. No phone. No chores. No distractions. Just them and their crazy little ways. Now I understand that this may make me look like a really BAD MOM. You may be thinking heck, this lady cannot spend 30 minutes straight with no distractions with her kids- man, that’s bad. And hey maybe you have a point but let me say this it’s not that when I’m playing with my kids I’m always checking email or facebook, and I’m certainly not sitting down sipping a latte while watching my favorite show, but sometimes I’m doing things for THEM and my family. You know cleaning, laundry, making dinner, grocery shopping, etc. So I’m not as bad as I look 😉
But really the spending 3o minutes focused only on my boys! Wow. It’s awesome.
It totally made me realize how important it is to cherish those moments. And then, slowly that guilt would start to trickle in – and it would say “see, why don’t you do this more?! you’re the worst.” And I would say “SHUT UP, GUILT. I’m uni-tasking. ONE THING. I’m focusing on ONE THING- playing with my 2 very awesome, totally insane, pretty stinking cute boys. SO GO AWAY, no time for guilting, let me see if I can get you on my calendar for some other time :).” And then back to playing. Playing rocks. Guilt not so much.
The second time, I want to highlight, is the time I went for a run with no music. Even my exercising has become a time of multi-tasking, I need to get it all done. Too much done, so much so that everything I do is a multitasking opportunity in my eyes. If I can go for a 20 minute walk while catching up with my mom or sister or worse making appointments or trying to find lower insurance-then I do it. So, I did the unthinkable I went for a run and didn’t even turn music on. I wish I could say I left my phone at home but I feel obsessive about tracking my workouts. For some reason I think they don’t count without the tracker…I know maybe that’ll be my next challenge ;). I tried to just be present to my body, to my neighborhood, to my run. And it was pretty awesome, too. I joke sometimes with my husband about the idea of the “precious present” from the book the Precious Present by Spencer Johnson. Not that it’s a joke but it’s just one of those things that over the years has become part of our language. When we talk about gifts or purchasing gifts inevitably one of us says well you have the “precious present!” But really it’s so true!
Being present in the moment is so hard and it’s seemingly becoming harder day by day, as every new technology brings us gifts and things we are able to do that we couldn’t before, they also appear to slowly drag us from our ability to be present. This challenge is proving way harder than I thought it would be. But I’m still at it! And I will certainly update you next week. How about you are you up for it? What have you given 30 full minutes to this week or what will you choose to do without distraction in the coming days? For me, it’s about reclaiming my time and happiness. It’s about not feeling like I have to accomplish a set number of things in a day. The checks on my to do list (while they are fun to create) aren’t what it’s all about. So join me as I try to rediscover just focusing on one thing. You up for it?